28. Its Just Too Hard!

“The soul would have no rainbow
had the eye no tears.”

— John Vance Cheney


   “Mom. I have bad news.”

            She’s so far away!

            “I’m trying to be strong, but it hurts.”

            I want to give her a hug, but I can’t.

            “I’ve been through this before, and it’s just so hard.”

            What can I possibly say that will help?

* * *

I remember a scene from the movie, “A League Of Their Own” with Tom Hanks and Gina Davis. Gina’s character was the star catcher on a national women’s baseball team during World War II. Tom’s character was the disagreeable, alcoholic manager of the team – a talented baseball “has-been” whose bitterness about the past motivated him to make enemies in the present with just about everybody,

In spite of the manager’s despicable attitude, the women players had managed to earn the honor of competing in the play-offs, which would have been called the World Series had the male players not been away from home fighting the war. The odds for an overall win seemed in their favor, and they felt determined to play their best and win the title. But then the catcher’s husband returned from deployment and surprised her on the road to their last competition game.

The soldier knew that he loved his wife and had missed her terribly. The only thing he could think about was leaving the next morning to head home, and taking his beloved with him. He had no clue how important her talent was to the success of the team.

All the other women were boarding the bus when the manager suddenly noticed his star catcher loading her suitcase into her husband’s car. He had learned the hard way that women don’t always see things as men do, so he constrained his nasty temper and tried to reason with his most valuable player: “Only one more game! … The team depends on you. … You LOVE baseball! … How can you quit when we’re so close to winning?”

The catcher sadly responded, “It’s just too hard.”

“Of course it’s hard,” the manager challenged. “That’s what makes it great.”

* * *

“Mom, I know it’s been awhile now, but it still hurts.”

 And I’m still so far away.

“But I remembered the widow of Zarephath – the one who obeyed Elijah and made him a cake with the last of her flour and oil. She’d intended to use what she had left to make one final meal for herself and her son before they would die of starvation. I realized that the widow had thought she would die, but God wanted her to live, so he provided for her need. I know that He has a plan for me, too.

This is so hard! But I know that she’s right where God wants her to be…and that’s just great!


He will be very gracious to you at the sound of your cry; 
when He hears it, He will answer you.
And though the Lord gives you
The bread of adversity and the water of affliction,
your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, 
‘This is the way, walk in it …'”

(Isaiah 30:19-21)



Read about Elijah’s encounter with the widow in 1 Kings 17:7-24, and meditate on this quote: “Faith rests on the naked Word of God; that Word believed gives full assurance.” – H. A. Ironside